The Good the Bad the UGLY: Being a mom!

6 Oct

Get comfy over there! This one is going to interesting!

Lets start with the good 🙂

The things I love about being a mom.. Teaching her how to grow up while she teaches me how to be a kid again, giving her the things she needs to lead a happy and healthy life and she gave me my dream come true (to be a mom), teaching her abc’s and 123’s while she teaches me to watch what I say and manage my budget, teaching her to be independent and strong while she teaches me to be less selfish and a little more patience, and my favorite.. teaching her she can be whatever she wants to be and she teaches me it’s okay to be who I am.

And here’s the bad, which really just leads to more good 🙂

I don’t know about all you other moms but I lost a lot of my self-confidence in these four steps..

1) Pregnancy – I think the most self-conscious things were not being able to properly shave my legs with a basketball in front of me. That was probably my most difficult moment.. being pregnant in the summer and not having long enough arms to wear the shorts. Lifting my hands up long enough to do my hair! Man that was a hard one, since you can’t lift anything of value your upper body becomes completely weak and lifting my arms above my head made me light headed almost instantly! Oh and being too tired to pluck my eyebrows or put make up on. Looking like a slob when your supposed to be glowing is a complete debbie downer!!

2) Privacy – The need for people you don’t even know to ask you seriously personal questions .. how do you answer to that!!? Then there is the free show you give to the obgyn on a regular basis and to the entire hospital staff which for me was something I was dreading the entire pregnancy! Never been very comfortable about that.

3) Aftermath – I am talking about the 3 month belly you still have after the delivery. My favorite part was walking through stores and people saying aww your baby is precious and then you hear them gabbing to their girlfriend as they continue walking .. “I can’t believe she is already pregnant again!!” Really!?? The sad part is most of these gabbing girlfriends are older women who have probably already had their children and HAD THE THREE MONTH BELLY afterwards.. you would think of all people they would remember what it was like!

4) Now – This might not apply to many of you but because I am 4’11 and naturally skinny I look like I am 16 when I am definitely nearing my mid-twenties! Going to the mall with my mom and E and people walking by saying I am an amazing big sister… thanks. Then when I am at Target one day and a little girl (probably ranging from 8-10) asks me “hold is the baby?” and I reply “two months” and she asks “where’s the mommy?” …. “I am her mommy.” and then here’s the best part “how old are you?”   Ouch.

Another hard thing that I have come to terms with is making mommy friends. Looking as young as I do and being home a majority of the time makes it tough to find other moms out there. Part of the biggest struggle for me was going to those free mom and baby activities and being afraid I would be judged by all the other moms or I would be the youngest mom there. I finally took the hard step and went to the library for story and song time with E and made a new friend 🙂 I am hoping this will be the next step in the right direction for me!

But through all of the decomposing self-esteem stages and remarks I am a proud mother of a gorgeous one year old daughter. I now sleep through the night so I don’t look like a zombie anymore, I get to shower on a regular basis, I sometimes get the time to get all dressed up make up and all, and through all the pain I have gotten stronger and more confident. Which ultimately seems to be showing more signs that I am in fact her mother when I am out and about and people are noticing!

Like I said earlier my favorite part of being a mom is teaching her she can be whatever she wants to be and she teaches me it’s okay to be who I am.

Side note: Does anyone else get inspiration while in the shower? It seems like that is my thinking spot. I make lists, daydream funny stories, plan the future (over and over and over again), and think about the past.

Another side note: I want to thank my amazing husband for understanding me and giving me the ability to be a stay at home mom for my daughter.

Love Always,

J

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2 Responses to “The Good the Bad the UGLY: Being a mom!”

  1. newm0mmy October 10, 2010 at 5:37 pm #

    Reading this I felt like I was reading something I have said to myself a bunch of times every thought you had I have had maybe not the being short but I can imagine that would be hard. But being pregnant was hard for me not so much health wise but just the being pregnant part and my baby is only 3 months and its hard to get out of those pregnantcy habits. Meeting new moms is way hard I’m young and meeting moms that are atleast 5 years older than me and not only no idea how to get a mommy group. Well I’m rambling. Great post

    • underestimatedmom October 10, 2010 at 6:42 pm #

      It’s good to know someone else feels the same way!! Hang in there and maybe one day you’ll run into a young mom like us! It’s always nice to have someone else who gets you!!! Keep in touch!

      Thanks for reading,

      J

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