Just One of THOSE days..

21 Nov

B was having one of those days yesterday where nothing seemed to peak his interest. He sat around the house wanting to do his usual relaxing and enjoying the day with E and I while also enjoying some TV and video gaming. Instead he flipped channels, did a little downloading, played a game, put it down, flipped channels again. He looked so bored and unmotivated that it didn’t take me long to figure out what kind of state of mind he was in. I have those days. Probably more often than anyone else I know. The poor guy only gets two days to really enjoy himself and he spends one of those days caught in the in-between feeling…

I know when I am in that kind of mood nothing seems to make it better no matter what I or anyone else seems to try and that made me stop and think. What can I do to make it any better? The typical nagging me asking him if everything was alright was definitely not helping. What do I do for me when I am in the state? What does everyone else do?

Me? I usually have to put on some music that it is uplifting and inspiring. Maybe drink some hot chocolate or tea. Then if all else fails take a nice LONG hot shower. It wasn’t until 10:30 at night that B put on some music of his and the first thing that came to my mind was .. DUHHH J why didn’t you think of that? I realize that I can’t always fix him or his feelings but I like to think that I could at least have enough ideas to get him going in the right direction.

So maybe it wasn’t meant to be me this time. Maybe he was supposed to figure out what he needed to do for him on his own. But I did think of one thing.

Chocolate Milk.

This boy loves chocolate milk like I love hot chocolate. We used to drink it every night in the summer (yes I convert to chocolate milk when it’s hot and hot chocolate when it’s cold.. it works for me). So I did it, I asked him, “Do you want me to make you some chocolate milk?” and I get an answer I seriously wasn’t expecting. He shook his head no..

What do you do for your significant other when they are in that drifting state of mind? What does your loved one do for you?

In this case, I did nothing and I felt a little disappointed in my usual AWESOME IDEA of a world. All I could do was cross my fingers and hope that tomorrow brought better days, better ideas, better laughs, and please please please bigger smiles!!

Love Always,

J

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One Response to “Just One of THOSE days..”

  1. funkyfeisty November 21, 2010 at 4:53 pm #

    In my 14.5 years of marriage I have learned that sometimes the best thing I can do is stay out of the way.

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