Please & Sorry

26 Aug

Please and Sorry have been major words in my vocabulary the past few days. I don’t exactly know what my problem with it is, but I have a hard time asking for help. I make myself a list full of things that are longer than the amount of hours in a day and then beat myself up about not getting them all done.

Another thing I like to do is add on tasks for other people. I hear someone say, “I need this” and I come running ready to solve the problem leaving behind my trail of things that still aren’t done yet.

This past week it really hit me hard and got me into a point of self-sabotage. My list was so long and overwhelming that I just kept putting it off and it just kept getting longer. At one point I remember sitting down on the floor with my list and computer and crap that piled up too high and cried.

I’ve noticed when I’m completely at the end of my rope the best way to deal with it is to email my husband. Knowing he’s at work and he doesn’t even get it sometimes until he gets home doesn’t matter. Sometimes he can answer me right away and it’s nice to hear what he has to say but either way – he comes home and it’s like everything wrong in the world just turns right.

He has a way of calming me down in seconds, sometimes without even saying a word. I love that man.

This time I asked for help. I cried out in an email that was probably three paragraphs longer than it needed to be (much like this post 😉 haha) and gave him a list of things I needed him to do so I could breath again. Then I went to the next best person in the whole wide world.

My Mommy. Nobody fixes a problem like Mommy’s do. I told her what was going on and she gladly took on a few things on my list and knocked them out in seconds and asked for more. I love her so much and now I see where I get my need to do things for people from. She’d gladly do all my work for me if she could just watch me raise my baby girl. I’m going to do the same for Emma without a shadow of a doubt.

So here’s to all those people out there that are stressed, exhausted, and burnt out. Go ask for help. It may make you cry, it may feel like the world is upside down, and you may feel like a complete loser; but it will be the best thing you ever did.

Thanks for stopping by,

Love Always,

J

 

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5 Responses to “Please & Sorry”

  1. Simply Creative Boutique August 26, 2012 at 4:27 pm #

    I think it’s a woman thing, taking on to much and not asking for help. I do it all the time, and I always want to help others even when they don’t ask, because that’s just me. My only savior is my husband. He just knows what to do and when. (bless his heart)
    Your not alone and crying it out sometimes just feels good and allows us to move on. Maybe that’s why kids get over things so fast lol they cry and it’s done!

    • Cul de Sac August 26, 2012 at 6:12 pm #

      i agree with the woman thing!

    • underestimatedmom August 27, 2012 at 7:27 pm #

      True true! We are lucky women to have such great men in our lives!

      Yes! It felt great after crying it out. Oh haha! I’ve never thought of it like that but maybe you are right on – kids have an easy time just bouncing back!

  2. Cul de Sac August 26, 2012 at 6:17 pm #

    Been there, done that! And better than that, I’ve learned something along the way… Now, I carefully choose which people I’m reaching out to help, I just don’t help everyone now, since I felt I didn’t even have enough energy left for my kids at some point. Having some people always asking for more without giving anything in return had me too 😦 We need to be careful and respecting our limit is a survival thing…. I’ve made some house cleaning in my “friend” and feel so much better now!
    Hugs!

    • underestimatedmom August 27, 2012 at 7:29 pm #

      Good point! It is very much a survival thing and when you put it like that it makes me really put into perspective what the most important things are. I shouldn’t be dwelling over these little things anymore!!

      It’s so nice to hear how others deal with the same issues! ❤ Blogging is my favorite support system 😉 haha!

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