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Putting it down!

14 Aug

This weekend I will be putting it down. The phone, the computer, the iPad, turning off the TV. 

  
I will be putting it all down for her. She desperately needs more of Brian and I. We are changing our normal routine because she deserves our attention. 

  
We want to be present in their lives so they know we are here when they need us, they are important, and that we love them.


With all the technology in this world, we have taught ourselves how to not be present. Our children more than ever need us to be present. So this weekend we are putting it down and it won’t be the last time I’m sure.

 

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It’s Time to Change Your Life

11 Aug

If you resonated with the title of this blog post you’ve probably been struggling with who you are. You’ve been fighting with yourself and maybe others to find that balance with who they want you to be and who you want to be. This is something that weighs on my heart specifically because I go through this all the time!

Make The Change

It’s time to make a change, and trust me, it is well worth your TIME investing in this because it’s most likely way overdue. Living your life for what other people, or in this case we’ll say the world, wants you to be can kill you. You might not literally die but everything inside of you will. Each of us has something unique, something amazing, something that is only us inside and each time we do something just to please the world we take that piece of us and step on it like it’s a bug not worth being alive.

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You might not realize you are killing your soul, but I bet you can feel that weight that it puts on your heart and your shoulders. It’s that feeling of doubt when you do what you love, that it won’t be good enough, or that it’s not the “right” thing to do. It’s that feeling of emptiness when you can’t seem to find the joy you once had.

It’s time to make a change. This isn’t going to be easy. This isn’t going to be fun. The outcome will be worth more than all the struggle it takes to get there and once you do get there, getting back there is much easier.

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Here are a few steps I suggest you take in changing your life. There are only four to get you started but they are enough to make an impact:

Stop comparing yourself to others.

The absolute worst thing we can do is listen to our inner self that’s saying we aren’t good enough or there’s someone who is better at this than I am. Chances are you are right, If you are just now doing what you love – you have not mastered it! It is going to take time, dedication, hard work, and a little elbow grease to become what your inner self deems good enough. So stop looking outward for success, look inward.

Start paying attention to what you do on a daily basis.

What is it that you are doing every day that is crushing your soul? What is it that you do every day that shows signs of bringing you joy? Why aren’t you doing that more? What’s stopping you from doing joyful things? How can you create a positive space for this joy to grow? Ask questions, dig deep, and really think about what brings you joy. Do you need to know the answers to these questions right away? No. But it’s time to start asking them. Get your brain wired to think about your actions before you do them!

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Find positive motivators and inspirations in your life.

If you aren’t motivated to change it’s not going to happen. Even though you are miserable there is a comfort in knowing the outcome of your task even if it’s a failure. Find things that create a spark in you to change that comfort into drive for something new. Listen to that podcast that tells you it’s okay to fail – get back up and try again! Look at those pinterest boards full of positive motivational quotes, or turn on some happy music. It’s time to think positive.

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Work on what you love.

Work on you. Don’t give up on this process. Don’t give into those negative comments that are happening in your head. There is so much to look forward to in this life and there isn’t enough time to let it waste. Change your life now. Reign that positive energy and motivation into what brings you joy. Spending time focusing on your craft that brings you joy, will change your life in a larger way than you could ever imagine.

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There is so much more to changing your life but I hope this little glimpse of how it can be done inspires you to move forward and change your outcome because I don’t wish those guilty, heavy, and painful feelings on even my worst of enemies. Who’s with me on making a change? Let’s all be better versions of ourselves.

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Payton Update

6 Jul

This little one is 11 months!!! I can’t believe it. She quickly grasped crawling, cut her first tooth, and decided she doesn’t hate sand but she doesn’t love it yet either!!

 
She’s still napping like a pro and has a special place in her heart for Emma.

 
She is babbling things that sound like words!! Like Mama, yes, no, and hi! 

  
She also loves to shake her head no and clap her hands!  

 
She is still the happiest baby in the world and we feel so lucky to have her!

   

Emma time 

5 Jul

This vacation is giving me so much time to chat with Emma. It’s fun to watch her figure out the world.

 
There are some days I wonder how you can physically ask that many questions!

 
Other days I try to put myself in her shoes. There’s so much to learn and so little time!!! 

 

What we’ve been up to!

22 Feb

What’s happening at our house?

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Lots of family snuggles to keep warm while we are in almost a foot of snow and ice.

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Some play doh playing! Check out that pumpkin! (One proud momma here)

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Some cleaning and reorganizing!

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Some sisterly bonding time.

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Some lovely painting!

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And some prepping for a DIY event!

A Payton update!

16 Feb

Someone is six months old! Eating oatmeal, veggies, fruits, and rolling all over the floor!

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She has been the quietest baby I’ve ever seen but she’s finally starting to find her voice.

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Her favorite things are to take her socks off and play with her toes, put absolutely everything in her mouth, and refuse tummy time by immediately rolling over.

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I love this little one to pieces!

Learning lessons.

14 Feb

It seems like the best posts I write about are the ones that consist of things I’m learning as a mother along the way.

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I was stumped with Emma not to long ago. Her behavior caught my attention, her lack of staying healthy had me worried, and her overall mood was at an all time low.

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Brian and I were struggling to find what the cause of it was and it hit me. Your immune system can’t function properly if you are not happy, you aren’t happy if you aren’t eating, exercising, and getting your emotions out properly.

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For a while now, we have struggled with Emma’s diet due to eczema and we finally got that set and have now found out she is showing symptoms of hypoglycemia which will change her diet again.

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With being sick so much, she hasn’t had the chance to just enjoy being a kid. It’s been rest up, fluids, and make up homework!

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With me adjusting my work schedule and load, she has had less time with me. I want her to be able to roll with the punches and understand that not everything goes as a planned. But more importantly, I want her to be happy and healthy.

Happy Birthday To ME!

2 Feb

Although today is my official birthday – my amazing family got together this past weekend for an early birthday celebration! We ate dinner, came home to my mom’s amazing homemade cheescake and mint squares and they surprised me with a new kitchen accessory:

 

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This momma got an amazing KitchenAid Mixer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This new addition got me so pumped, I cleaned out and rearranged my entire kitchen to give it a nice new home! But of course I didn’t stop there. I found some awesome pins to keep me busy for the next year making delicious things for my family. Here’s some great things I found:

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A must know, to me it really is the most important thing first!

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We love banana bread in this house so that will be the first thing I attempt to make!

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Now that I have this sweet thing, I am going to need to re-organize my baking things!!

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And here comes my wishlist for Christmas next year haha!

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Let’s just say I’ll be busy 😉 and I will be sharing all the fun things I make with you as well!

Are You Taking Care Of You?

29 Jan

I can just hear my mom’s voice in my head. “You can’t take care of everyone else if you aren’t taking care of yourself.” She’s a genius.

So need to start doing this more often. It is definitely a MUST! Tired of letting myself be a pushover.

When your life is full of a list of things to do for everyone else, you tend to forget what you need. Last year I realized I was balancing too much and if I kept going at the rate I was, I was going to break. As much as that would hurt me, I was more worried about my family. Two little girls are dependent on me, and my husband – although he could do it on his own, he deserves someone who is there.

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This year I made some major changes in my life. I hired help to get me through the work and dedicated that time back to my family. We are spending more time together and focusing on what’s really important in our lives. Each other.

This is not an easy thing to do so I gathered up some things to help you remind yourself how to get back to what’s really important in your life.

1. Find a schedule that works for you, not against you.

2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

3. Learn to say no graciously. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s fine to have a role model to look up to, but don’t beat yourself up trying to be them.

5. Worrying only takes up precious time. We can’t control everything, and we shouldn’t.

6. Enjoy the small moments and victories.

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After all, these moments won’t last forever!

What do you do to refocus and take care of you?

Mouth Closed, Ears Open!

21 Jan

Something we’ve been working on in this household is our listening ears. At first I was just trying to find ways to help Emma learn the importance of listening and how it can hurt relationships when we don’t. Then I realized, our whole family could use a little more listening skills! Turns out, we all struggle with this.

A good method to remember when you are trying to pray contemplatively. Makes perfect sense.

With listening comes waiting our turn to talk. Emma and I are learning to communicate in a way that really doesn’t even need words! Instead of asking her to be quiet while I am on the phone, I have been asking her to tap me, or put her hand on me to tell me she has something to say. In return, I’ll put my hand on hers to let her know that I “hear” her and I will give her turn as soon as I can.

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This works both ways, if she is in the middle of something I can do the same for her. We’ve also implemented the “Excuse Me”. This is something I absolutely adore and love about Emma. When we are out in public, or she is with anyone really, she says excuse me when she isn’t feeling like she is heard or has something to say. It’s adorable! But we don’t do it at home, and I sure as heck don’t do it!

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That’s been changing around here. I’ve been saying excuse me to Emma when I have something to say and she gets a kick out of it. The other day I said, “Excuse me Emma, I have something important to say.” She said with a quick smirk, “Thank you for saying excuse me, but it’s not quite your turn yet. As I was saying..” Even though that little smarty pants wasn’t talking in the first place, I did what I was told and waited my turn. After all, the best way to learn is by seeing others do it.

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I feel like our relationship is growing stronger and I am so thankful that all it took was a different approach. Sometimes we just have to remember that those little beings are looking up to us for answers.

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