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Make Your Needs Into Wants

16 Aug

It’s amazing what the simplest thing a child can say to change your perspective.

I’ve always been a dreamer. Someone who is looking ahead at her future trying to grasp what other’s deem impossible. Most often than not, those dreams consist of a stress free lifestyle centered around my family. More often than not, the reality is that I am working so hard I have to balance work, life, and family. I feel like this is something that most suffer from.

Make your needs into wants

Emma said to me the other day “You never want to play with me.”

That hit me hard. It’s not that I don’t want to play with her at all but in her mind that’s what she sees. It’s been a great summer but it’s also been the first summer she’s ever had following her first year of school. We spent a majority of the summer entertained by activities and vacation and most of that came to a halt this past month due to preparation for school! This was also the first summer she had to share me with Payton.

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My initial response was, “I want to play with you, but I have to get some work done hun.”

It wasn’t later that I realized to her there aren’t have to’s. If you aren’t playing with me and you are doing something else you are doing it because you want to do that more. It’s clear as day to them in their mind.

If you want to know what we did, you can read my last post:

Putting It Down

I’m not saying everyone can do what we did and just put technology down for a few days. I’m not suggesting that we give everything up for our kids. I do suggest we start doing what we want to do more often that what we feel like we have to do.

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It’s amazing how much your perspective can change when you change one simple word. I challenge you all to change all of your “have to’s” to “want to’s” for one day and see how it effects your mood and your decisions.

How many things do you do on a daily basis that you say you have to do that really you just want to do. Do you feel less stressed and overwhelmed when you say want to instead of have to?

Or maybe you really feel like you have to do them but when you change it to want to – you realize that it’s not that important to you after all. Is there a way you can take those have to’s out of your life? Why can’t we all strive to do what we want to do and have success doing it?

Just a random thought for you today. I hope you enjoyed it! If so, please let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear if anyone successfully implements this in their daily routine.

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It’s Time to Change Your Life

11 Aug

If you resonated with the title of this blog post you’ve probably been struggling with who you are. You’ve been fighting with yourself and maybe others to find that balance with who they want you to be and who you want to be. This is something that weighs on my heart specifically because I go through this all the time!

Make The Change

It’s time to make a change, and trust me, it is well worth your TIME investing in this because it’s most likely way overdue. Living your life for what other people, or in this case we’ll say the world, wants you to be can kill you. You might not literally die but everything inside of you will. Each of us has something unique, something amazing, something that is only us inside and each time we do something just to please the world we take that piece of us and step on it like it’s a bug not worth being alive.

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You might not realize you are killing your soul, but I bet you can feel that weight that it puts on your heart and your shoulders. It’s that feeling of doubt when you do what you love, that it won’t be good enough, or that it’s not the “right” thing to do. It’s that feeling of emptiness when you can’t seem to find the joy you once had.

It’s time to make a change. This isn’t going to be easy. This isn’t going to be fun. The outcome will be worth more than all the struggle it takes to get there and once you do get there, getting back there is much easier.

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Here are a few steps I suggest you take in changing your life. There are only four to get you started but they are enough to make an impact:

Stop comparing yourself to others.

The absolute worst thing we can do is listen to our inner self that’s saying we aren’t good enough or there’s someone who is better at this than I am. Chances are you are right, If you are just now doing what you love – you have not mastered it! It is going to take time, dedication, hard work, and a little elbow grease to become what your inner self deems good enough. So stop looking outward for success, look inward.

Start paying attention to what you do on a daily basis.

What is it that you are doing every day that is crushing your soul? What is it that you do every day that shows signs of bringing you joy? Why aren’t you doing that more? What’s stopping you from doing joyful things? How can you create a positive space for this joy to grow? Ask questions, dig deep, and really think about what brings you joy. Do you need to know the answers to these questions right away? No. But it’s time to start asking them. Get your brain wired to think about your actions before you do them!

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Find positive motivators and inspirations in your life.

If you aren’t motivated to change it’s not going to happen. Even though you are miserable there is a comfort in knowing the outcome of your task even if it’s a failure. Find things that create a spark in you to change that comfort into drive for something new. Listen to that podcast that tells you it’s okay to fail – get back up and try again! Look at those pinterest boards full of positive motivational quotes, or turn on some happy music. It’s time to think positive.

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Work on what you love.

Work on you. Don’t give up on this process. Don’t give into those negative comments that are happening in your head. There is so much to look forward to in this life and there isn’t enough time to let it waste. Change your life now. Reign that positive energy and motivation into what brings you joy. Spending time focusing on your craft that brings you joy, will change your life in a larger way than you could ever imagine.

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There is so much more to changing your life but I hope this little glimpse of how it can be done inspires you to move forward and change your outcome because I don’t wish those guilty, heavy, and painful feelings on even my worst of enemies. Who’s with me on making a change? Let’s all be better versions of ourselves.

Thank you google images for the wonderful pictures above.

#girlboss Book Review

23 Jan

I put this book on my wishlist for Christmas and was ECSTATIC when I got it! For a while I have been searching for a book that is uplifting, motivating, funny, interesting, and geared towards running your own business. I wasn’t looking for self help, tips & tricks, or guidelines. I wanted something easy and fun to read. I had heard about this book through the grapevine, read the summary, and immediately got excited. It was the one I had been searching for.

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For those of you who have sensitive ears, be forewarned it does have some language in it. But if you put all that aside you’ll see this book is about taking a leap of faith, changing your point of view on what work should be, and encouraging you to do what you love.

It’s about picking yourself up off the floor, realizing you can do it on your own, and when it’s time – ask for help. This book is what got me back on my feet. I am a SUPER slow reader. I tend to read one or two books a year because, let’s face it, it’s hard to find time to read! I used to love reading back when I didn’t have lists upon lists of things to do! I read this book in two days. TWO DAYS! That’s ridiculous for me considering it takes months and maybe even a year for me to get through a book!

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Who should read this?

1. Someone who is looking for a change in their life.

2. Someone who doesn’t want a traditional job.

3. Someone who could use some motivation.

4. Someone who takes interest in the way other’s live their lives.

5. Anyone who enjoys an easy fun read.

I hope you’ll give this book a chance and tell me what you think of it below!

Ahh A Newborn’s Schedule

17 Jan

There are often times I look over at Payton and just wonder what it’s like to be on her schedule. She gets to sit back and sleep the day away in a foggy haze and gets to eat whenever she pleases! This cute little face keeps me entertained and distracted throughout the day 😉

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So you might be wondering what my schedule is like these days? Oh you know, just crazy! But I love it 🙂 With Emma in school, Payton making up her schedule as she goes, and my hands in a million different jobs, I guess you could say it gets a little nuts around here sometimes! Here’s a little sneak peak at a normal day for me:

6:30 wake up and feed Payton
7:30 get Emma up and ready for school
8:15 get Emma on the school bus or drive her to school
9:00 feed myself and get as much work as I can squeezed in there.
9:30 feed Payton again
10:00 back to work and it’s go time! I usually have a long list of things I need to get done before 12:00!
12:30 feed Payton and somehow feed myself at the same time. This is a lot harder than it sounds!!
1:30 get back to work and finish up everything I can before school bus time
3:30 pick up Emma and feed Payton as soon as we get back, then help Emma with her homework and get her set up with an activity if I’ve got more work to do. (Which I almost always do)
4:30 finishing up work as fast as my little fingers to go
5:30 make dinner
6:30 eat dinner and feed Payton – why she loves to eat when I do, I have no idea 😉
7:30 put Emma to bed
8:30 get Payton to bed for the night (if it works)
10:30 put myself to bed!!

For those of you who have no idea what I do, this is what it looks like all day long!

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I am a virtual assistant for four amazing clients! Never heard of a virtual assistant? Neither has a lot of my family, until I started it that is. I’m basically an administrative assistant who works from home doing everything that an admin in the office would do, except be in the office 😉

I answer phones, schedule clients, answer emails, social media, blogging (for others), marketing, mailing, invoicing, newsletters, spreadsheets, you name it – I have probably dabbled in it a bit!

As you can assume, it can get a little hectic here with my task list and two kids, which has been why I haven’t been around so much.

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These two have always been priority number one so sometimes things get a little left out and since blogging and etsy were personal things for me, I decided they were the first to go. Luckily things are seriously about to change! This assistant, just hired an assistant! Actually two to be exact 😉

I now have help with my virtual assistant work and for my personal work. I am not willing to give up my dream of providing for my family from home, doing what I love. So the best way for me to fight for that was to enlist some help! You’ll be noticing a few changes around here thanks to my new assistant Amanda! (I’ll have her introduce herself later so you all can meet her as well)

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Welcome to 2015! Where this girl is getting her boss on 😉

P.S. this book is HILARIOUS and a great read if you need a quick swift in the butt to get you back on track. You should totally read it, like now!

Embracing the Change

27 Jul

You would think that Payton coming into our lives would be a big enough change as it is 😉 but of course I like to go around and change everything at once! I’ve decided to make the switch from wordpress.com to wordpress.org and have been building up the website behind the scenes now for a week or so. I’m excited to say that it might be ready and in use starting the beginning of August!

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I am seriously impressed with how easy the process has been and how smooth it’s going. I’ve also been having a lot of fun with the designing part of this process. I am definitely not a designer by any means but I am definitely enjoying this new simple look I am going with! What do you think of the banner?

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