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This Is How We Spend Our Days

16 Mar

I used to be a work-aholic! I still kind of am.. but I have to say I have been much better about actually taking time off to be with these girls. After all, that is why I wanted to be a virtual assistant to begin with!

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We like to be lazy in this house on our days off. Wake up when we went, eat when we want, and stay home all day. Heck, sometimes we don’t even get out of our jammies!

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Now that I’ve gotten used to this time with them, I refuse to let it go. We play more games, craft, make messes, clean them up, but most importantly, we just spend time together.

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As you can see, since Payton is at home with me all day, she likes to plan to go out all the time. Emma on the other hand, doesn’t mind doing absolutely nothing for a while 😉

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I think the girls are enjoying it just as much as we are.

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Lexi is too 😉

We Come and We Go

6 Dec

As I was sitting down yesterday after an eventful exciting day with the girls, I realized I was so tired of putting off the things I love the most. I haven’t been crafting as much as used to, I haven’t been writing here as much as I’d love to, I haven’t taken care of myself because I am so busy taking care of everything else! It seems like I’ve been slowly realizing this as I’ve started putting me back in the front seat.

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Recently I’ve pulled back out my yarn and hook and starting making things for myself instead of my etsy page. I had worked so hard on my etsy shop making things I thought people would want to buy that I wasn’t enjoying it anymore. I took some time to think about what I wanted to make for me or my family and the ideas started rolling in!

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How many scarves and hats have I made and Emma didn’t even have a set of her own? She had outgrown all of hers and although Payton has been loving the previous one’s Emma passed down, it was about time Emma has a set of her own! I let her pick out some of the yarn I already had in stock and I couldn’t be more proud of my hard work!

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Since we moved into this house we haven’t had a wreath on our door. I know it seems ridiculous to be upset about that, but that was one of the things I was looking forward to when we owned our own home. Three years and I hadn’t made one wreath for our own home!!

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Now I am happy wreath on my door home owner! Granted it’s only one, but I do have a few more ideas in mind. I am so proud of the fact that I didn’t attempt to buy sixteen of these, stock up on premade ones, and buy shipping boxes with the intention of selling them, because honestly I don’t want to!

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What I plan on making is a happy home! I hope you all will join in me in my process of finding what’s important for me and my family and enjoy us as we come and go. I might not be consistent on this blog, but I will be here when I can.

Make Your Needs Into Wants

16 Aug

It’s amazing what the simplest thing a child can say to change your perspective.

I’ve always been a dreamer. Someone who is looking ahead at her future trying to grasp what other’s deem impossible. Most often than not, those dreams consist of a stress free lifestyle centered around my family. More often than not, the reality is that I am working so hard I have to balance work, life, and family. I feel like this is something that most suffer from.

Make your needs into wants

Emma said to me the other day “You never want to play with me.”

That hit me hard. It’s not that I don’t want to play with her at all but in her mind that’s what she sees. It’s been a great summer but it’s also been the first summer she’s ever had following her first year of school. We spent a majority of the summer entertained by activities and vacation and most of that came to a halt this past month due to preparation for school! This was also the first summer she had to share me with Payton.

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My initial response was, “I want to play with you, but I have to get some work done hun.”

It wasn’t later that I realized to her there aren’t have to’s. If you aren’t playing with me and you are doing something else you are doing it because you want to do that more. It’s clear as day to them in their mind.

If you want to know what we did, you can read my last post:

Putting It Down

I’m not saying everyone can do what we did and just put technology down for a few days. I’m not suggesting that we give everything up for our kids. I do suggest we start doing what we want to do more often that what we feel like we have to do.

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It’s amazing how much your perspective can change when you change one simple word. I challenge you all to change all of your “have to’s” to “want to’s” for one day and see how it effects your mood and your decisions.

How many things do you do on a daily basis that you say you have to do that really you just want to do. Do you feel less stressed and overwhelmed when you say want to instead of have to?

Or maybe you really feel like you have to do them but when you change it to want to – you realize that it’s not that important to you after all. Is there a way you can take those have to’s out of your life? Why can’t we all strive to do what we want to do and have success doing it?

Just a random thought for you today. I hope you enjoyed it! If so, please let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear if anyone successfully implements this in their daily routine.

Putting it down!

14 Aug

This weekend I will be putting it down. The phone, the computer, the iPad, turning off the TV. 

  
I will be putting it all down for her. She desperately needs more of Brian and I. We are changing our normal routine because she deserves our attention. 

  
We want to be present in their lives so they know we are here when they need us, they are important, and that we love them.


With all the technology in this world, we have taught ourselves how to not be present. Our children more than ever need us to be present. So this weekend we are putting it down and it won’t be the last time I’m sure.

 

Learning lessons.

14 Feb

It seems like the best posts I write about are the ones that consist of things I’m learning as a mother along the way.

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I was stumped with Emma not to long ago. Her behavior caught my attention, her lack of staying healthy had me worried, and her overall mood was at an all time low.

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Brian and I were struggling to find what the cause of it was and it hit me. Your immune system can’t function properly if you are not happy, you aren’t happy if you aren’t eating, exercising, and getting your emotions out properly.

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For a while now, we have struggled with Emma’s diet due to eczema and we finally got that set and have now found out she is showing symptoms of hypoglycemia which will change her diet again.

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With being sick so much, she hasn’t had the chance to just enjoy being a kid. It’s been rest up, fluids, and make up homework!

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With me adjusting my work schedule and load, she has had less time with me. I want her to be able to roll with the punches and understand that not everything goes as a planned. But more importantly, I want her to be happy and healthy.

Are You Taking Care Of You?

29 Jan

I can just hear my mom’s voice in my head. “You can’t take care of everyone else if you aren’t taking care of yourself.” She’s a genius.

So need to start doing this more often. It is definitely a MUST! Tired of letting myself be a pushover.

When your life is full of a list of things to do for everyone else, you tend to forget what you need. Last year I realized I was balancing too much and if I kept going at the rate I was, I was going to break. As much as that would hurt me, I was more worried about my family. Two little girls are dependent on me, and my husband – although he could do it on his own, he deserves someone who is there.

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This year I made some major changes in my life. I hired help to get me through the work and dedicated that time back to my family. We are spending more time together and focusing on what’s really important in our lives. Each other.

This is not an easy thing to do so I gathered up some things to help you remind yourself how to get back to what’s really important in your life.

1. Find a schedule that works for you, not against you.

2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

3. Learn to say no graciously. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s fine to have a role model to look up to, but don’t beat yourself up trying to be them.

5. Worrying only takes up precious time. We can’t control everything, and we shouldn’t.

6. Enjoy the small moments and victories.

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After all, these moments won’t last forever!

What do you do to refocus and take care of you?

Mouth Closed, Ears Open!

21 Jan

Something we’ve been working on in this household is our listening ears. At first I was just trying to find ways to help Emma learn the importance of listening and how it can hurt relationships when we don’t. Then I realized, our whole family could use a little more listening skills! Turns out, we all struggle with this.

A good method to remember when you are trying to pray contemplatively. Makes perfect sense.

With listening comes waiting our turn to talk. Emma and I are learning to communicate in a way that really doesn’t even need words! Instead of asking her to be quiet while I am on the phone, I have been asking her to tap me, or put her hand on me to tell me she has something to say. In return, I’ll put my hand on hers to let her know that I “hear” her and I will give her turn as soon as I can.

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This works both ways, if she is in the middle of something I can do the same for her. We’ve also implemented the “Excuse Me”. This is something I absolutely adore and love about Emma. When we are out in public, or she is with anyone really, she says excuse me when she isn’t feeling like she is heard or has something to say. It’s adorable! But we don’t do it at home, and I sure as heck don’t do it!

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That’s been changing around here. I’ve been saying excuse me to Emma when I have something to say and she gets a kick out of it. The other day I said, “Excuse me Emma, I have something important to say.” She said with a quick smirk, “Thank you for saying excuse me, but it’s not quite your turn yet. As I was saying..” Even though that little smarty pants wasn’t talking in the first place, I did what I was told and waited my turn. After all, the best way to learn is by seeing others do it.

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I feel like our relationship is growing stronger and I am so thankful that all it took was a different approach. Sometimes we just have to remember that those little beings are looking up to us for answers.

Asking for Help

25 Jun

Asking for help has never been a strong suit of mine! I always hate feeling like I am putting a person in a position they don’t want to be in or making them uncomfortable because I am one of those people that easily get’s that way!

Being a blogger has given me a chance to express myself in a way I never thought was possible – due to the fact that I am insecure in so many ways. My etsy shop has given me the confidence that I can provide for my family doing what I love. Friends & Family have been so encouraging and uplifting when I feel like things are falling apart.

"Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, & brave enough to ask for it." - Unknown #quotes

So here I am to encourage the rest of you who feel like I do to ask for help if you need it! I’ve spent the past few years of my life asking for more help than I ever thought. I couldn’t be here today without all the help I’ve gotten and although most of it is from very close family and friends, it’s still important to gain the courage to take a leap of faith and put your heart on the line.

You’d be surprised at how many people are willing to support you achieve your goals.

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Living With What You Have

15 Jun

In this world we seem to always want more, always want the newest things, the best things, to have to make us happier and I am not any different in that way. I would like to change that and even though I know it will be almost impossible to do that completely, I’d like to try to change that part of my life in certain areas.

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My mom read a blog post by another reader near the beginning of the year where she picks a word for the year and tries to embrace that word. When she told me about this, I thought it was a wonderful idea and left it at that. She reminded me of it not too long ago reminding me that her word was Content and that she just wanted to be content with her life and be happy with where it was and where it was going. I can’t agree more.

I want to be happy with the life I am living NOW. I’d like to stop searching for that next best thing and the newest idea to make my life better. I have an amazing family, an amazing home, and a wonderful life.

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If you saw my post on facebook last week you’ll notice that I’m on a 30 day challenge to not spend any extra money than necessary and this is one of my attempts to get started on that process. I’d like to just be happy with what I do have, and what better way to do that than not bring in anything new? I’ll post more about this later this week.

There’s so much we can be doing with our lives to enjoy living in the moment with what we have – Let’s all try to be a little more content.

 

P.S. Thank you mom for always reminding me of what’s important in my life. #30makeitwork

Thanksgiving

28 Nov
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I hope everyone has a happy and safe Thanksgiving! Today we are spending it in Alexandria with family. A lot has happened in the past year for my sister and I and I am so proud to be spending Thanksgiving at her house this year. We are finally grown ups and able to celebrate the holidays in our own homes. I’m also super thankful because I know her and her husband are going to make mouth watering food! I’ve never had a meal there that I didn’t love!

If you want to see updated pictures as thanksgiving goes along with my family, keep checking the instagram roll on the right of my blog ——->

Love you all!

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