It’s amazing what the simplest thing a child can say to change your perspective.
I’ve always been a dreamer. Someone who is looking ahead at her future trying to grasp what other’s deem impossible. Most often than not, those dreams consist of a stress free lifestyle centered around my family. More often than not, the reality is that I am working so hard I have to balance work, life, and family. I feel like this is something that most suffer from.
Emma said to me the other day “You never want to play with me.”
That hit me hard. It’s not that I don’t want to play with her at all but in her mind that’s what she sees. It’s been a great summer but it’s also been the first summer she’s ever had following her first year of school. We spent a majority of the summer entertained by activities and vacation and most of that came to a halt this past month due to preparation for school! This was also the first summer she had to share me with Payton.
My initial response was, “I want to play with you, but I have to get some work done hun.”
It wasn’t later that I realized to her there aren’t have to’s. If you aren’t playing with me and you are doing something else you are doing it because you want to do that more. It’s clear as day to them in their mind.
If you want to know what we did, you can read my last post:
Putting It Down
I’m not saying everyone can do what we did and just put technology down for a few days. I’m not suggesting that we give everything up for our kids. I do suggest we start doing what we want to do more often that what we feel like we have to do.
It’s amazing how much your perspective can change when you change one simple word. I challenge you all to change all of your “have to’s” to “want to’s” for one day and see how it effects your mood and your decisions.
How many things do you do on a daily basis that you say you have to do that really you just want to do. Do you feel less stressed and overwhelmed when you say want to instead of have to?
Or maybe you really feel like you have to do them but when you change it to want to – you realize that it’s not that important to you after all. Is there a way you can take those have to’s out of your life? Why can’t we all strive to do what we want to do and have success doing it?
Just a random thought for you today. I hope you enjoyed it! If so, please let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear if anyone successfully implements this in their daily routine.