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My life is like a rollercoaster!

15 Dec

It seriously has some major ups and downs .. but who’s life doesn’t!? Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like it’s taken me until E was born to realize that I may not control the ups and downs but I can make it worthwhile. For the past year it seems like I have gone back to my roots (aka highschool / beginning of college days) where I ignore all those mean people who like to bring me down, and instead I keep track of all the amazing stuff. It’s about dang time! Right?

Instead of dwelling over all the crazy, uncontrollable, stressful things that happen, I have been making note of the things that I love the most about my life. I have successfully managed to let the bad go and bring in the good. This wasn’t an easy process and I feel like at times I am still learning it but it’s totally amazing! After lots of practice and complaining to my husband when I am hitting the down times, I have managed to keep this blog and my facebook almost completely positive! I have been tracking all the things that have made me laugh, and remember to make the effort to go out of my way to make hot chocolate on a cold dreary day! Who doesn’t love that!?

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to make my life a living happy bubble but come on! Doesn’t it feel good to feel good! Especially in this cold yucky season?

The main steps that I have been teaching myself to take is to recognize when I am in that nasty, horrible, no good mood. I find out what is really bugging me and then decide to just “let it go”. Because honestly, it doesn’t matter what you do. If you are negative about something, it’s only going to come out with more ugly negative news. I kept track of the things that are mood-lifters to me. Like hot chocolate, some good music, doing something productive (even if it means that the cleaning is not going to get done!), or just doing something you love like reading maybe!?

Then after the mood lift happens and your back in your “happy place” do something FUN! For me it’s obviously crafting, and when your negative nancy, let me just tell you.. your crafts come out dreadful! Sometimes it takes all day to get back out of my funk, and some days it just takes a few seconds but lately it has seemed to work out wonderfully!

Then after your relaxing from your uplifting mood, write it down! Remember it, take a picture, change your facebook status! Whatever it takes so that when you go back to look at all the things you have done the past couple of days, your realize that your life totally rocks!

Maybe it will work for you? Maybe it wont. You might be surprised…

Love Always,

J

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Just One of THOSE days..

21 Nov

B was having one of those days yesterday where nothing seemed to peak his interest. He sat around the house wanting to do his usual relaxing and enjoying the day with E and I while also enjoying some TV and video gaming. Instead he flipped channels, did a little downloading, played a game, put it down, flipped channels again. He looked so bored and unmotivated that it didn’t take me long to figure out what kind of state of mind he was in. I have those days. Probably more often than anyone else I know. The poor guy only gets two days to really enjoy himself and he spends one of those days caught in the in-between feeling…

I know when I am in that kind of mood nothing seems to make it better no matter what I or anyone else seems to try and that made me stop and think. What can I do to make it any better? The typical nagging me asking him if everything was alright was definitely not helping. What do I do for me when I am in the state? What does everyone else do?

Me? I usually have to put on some music that it is uplifting and inspiring. Maybe drink some hot chocolate or tea. Then if all else fails take a nice LONG hot shower. It wasn’t until 10:30 at night that B put on some music of his and the first thing that came to my mind was .. DUHHH J why didn’t you think of that? I realize that I can’t always fix him or his feelings but I like to think that I could at least have enough ideas to get him going in the right direction.

So maybe it wasn’t meant to be me this time. Maybe he was supposed to figure out what he needed to do for him on his own. But I did think of one thing.

Chocolate Milk.

This boy loves chocolate milk like I love hot chocolate. We used to drink it every night in the summer (yes I convert to chocolate milk when it’s hot and hot chocolate when it’s cold.. it works for me). So I did it, I asked him, “Do you want me to make you some chocolate milk?” and I get an answer I seriously wasn’t expecting. He shook his head no..

What do you do for your significant other when they are in that drifting state of mind? What does your loved one do for you?

In this case, I did nothing and I felt a little disappointed in my usual AWESOME IDEA of a world. All I could do was cross my fingers and hope that tomorrow brought better days, better ideas, better laughs, and please please please bigger smiles!!

Love Always,

J

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